A mothers guilt for simply not knowing. If only I knew then what I do now!!
I would not be sat writing this. I would be living a normal life just like you.
Next week we should be celebrating our son Dylan`s 19th birthday but instead we will remember the good times we got to share with him for the 13, nearly 14 years we had him in our lives.
It has been just over 5 years since we lost our first born son Dylan.
It was the 3rd of July 2011, a very hot sunny Sunday, when tragedy came knocking.
A normal Sunday meaning I was at football with my younger son and my husband was home watching the other three children.
That is until I received a call; a call that would change mine and my families life forever.
My husband called to say there had been an accident at the local quarry involving Dylan. I needed to get home now.
Frantic I came home.
Thinking my son had taken some kind of fall and was injured I made my way home.
I ended up being escorted by the police as they tried to pull us over for our frantic driving.
As we arrived I heard on the radio code 1 or 9 but little did I know that was the moment my son was pronounced dead.
I was told as I jumped out of a moving police car by my husband and I screamed and begged for it not to be true but it was.
I came to realize Dylan had made the decision to go to the local quarry with two friends.
Being a good swimmer, very active, fit and healthy, with no warning signs, no life rings, nothing warning of the dangers that lay ahead of him he made the choice to go swimming.
That choice cost him his life and changed all our lives forever.
[Becky Ramsay was Dylan's Mum. Since he died she has been tirelessly campaigning. Dylan's Mum learned the hard way why it is so important that the dangers of open cold water and water safety is taught as part of the national curriculum. For Becky this would mean her boy did not die for nothing.]
Becky adds "the many tears I cry that I wish I did not cry. The pain and hurt in my children that I just can 't heal. The sorrow in my family's eyes that I can always see. The life that lives on while we stand still. The guilt of not knowing the dangers in and around open water cost me my son's life, because had I known he would still be here. People know the green cross code yet we don`t see people playing on the motorway thats because they know it`s dangerous. Swimming in open water is similar .. as in learning to swim in a swimming pool does not equip someone with the knowledge of swimming in open water."
On what would have been Dylan's 19th birthday a new petition will be launched and with your help it will be a huge success.
Join us in a Twitterstorm supporting Dylan's family as they push for a simple chnage to the national curriculum; a chnage that could save lives.
Open Letter to:
UK PM Theresa May
Labour Party leader Jeremy Corbyn
Liberal Democrat Party leader Tim Farron
Friends and Comrades
One woman is campaigning in the UK to include water safety in the national curriculum.
Becky Ramsay wants the government to ensure open-water safety, and the dangers in and around open-water, is taught in schools.
This could be a life-saver.
It would be too late for Becky's son Dylan who was just another water related fatality in 2011.
Since that time Becky has campaigned tirelessly, including petitions, but five years on young people are still dying, often attracted to water such as canals and reservoirs during the summer months.
Becky tells us:
It does not seem a controversial subject; most people are shocked that it is not taught in schools already and some people do believe that it is down to parents.
Who can disagree with Becky's reasoning?
Becky is about to launch a new petition and this time we will make sure it is well supported and the government listens and acts accordingly.
Plans for a Twitterstorm in the near future are being finalised.
Details of both will be added later.
Please support Becky and all the other families bereaved due to tragic accidents in open water.
With appropriate education the government can make a real difference.
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